Issue date: 2/9/07 Section: Dear Altie

Dear Altie: I think my boyfriend is cheating on me and I am not sure what to do. I moved here a few months ago from Nevada so most of his friends are my friends and their going to be loyal to him. Then I wont have a boyfriend or any friends at all. I need help.
Sincerely,
Nevada needs help

Dear Nevada needs help: You need to confront him about. Just straight up ask him. Give reasons as to why you think he's cheating on you. Then, go from there. If he is, you need to ask yourself if he is worth it. You can always make new friends. You did when you moved to and came from Nevada, right? You can do it again.
Sincerely, Altie

Dear Altie: I have recently decided to come out to my parents (as in, telling them I am not straight). At first I was nervous about it, and now I'm just more thinking about not telling them at all. The other part of it is that I want to introduce them to my girlfriend, but she is black, and I come from a strong Korean family who would have a problem with that. So, I don't know if I should just introduce her as a "friend" and work my way up?? They are strong Catholics, so, telling them isn't going to be easy. My brother is gettin married in four weeks and maybe I should just tell them all during the dinner rehersal.
Sincerely,
Questionably coming out

Dear questionably coming out: First off, do not break the news at your brother's dinner rehersal. That would be all bad. Eventually you will have to tell them, and letting it drag out is just going to stress you out. I think that you should first introduce her as your friend. Let them get used to her and let them grow to like her. Then, tell them. Remember, it is your life, you are an adult and you make your own choices. Your parents will always love you. They may be hurt for a while but they will get over it. Don't break this news to them until after the wedding. It will make things smoother and you don't want to have any crazy family feuds at the wedding. When you tell them, sit them down and explain everything to them. This is a tough situation. You may want to get in touch with the Gay Straight Alliance Club. They can help you a lot more than I can. I wish you good luck with whatever you choose to do. Just remember, do what makes you happy.
Sincerely, Altie

I want to thank all of those that wrote in and I hope to help more of you. In addition, Dear Altie has just expanded onto the radio. Tune into Love and Las Positas on Tuesday nights at 8 p.m. I will be on there with DJ Boo to help even more.

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